tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post8569639976213478878..comments2023-06-20T07:47:24.386-05:00Comments on The Spiced Tea Party: The Making of An Erotic Romance AuthorUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post-26705556874544091322007-12-12T15:37:00.000-05:002007-12-12T15:37:00.000-05:00That's an excellent question, Celia! If you want ...That's an excellent question, Celia! <BR/><BR/>If you want sexy without them having sex, they can be surrounded by sex but aren't doing it themselves, i.e. they are in a brothel, looking at erotic art, or reading erotica. So there's tension and heat, but frustration on their parts.<BR/><BR/>But if you definitely want them to get into bed...<BR/>Do they not like each other because they don't trust each other? I think it's possible to be hugely physically attracted to someone you don't trust. That could, in fact, be a big part of the excitement. <BR/>It can be done with them actually paying for it if both parties don't violate the implied trust of going to bed. But there will be lots of emotional tension, stress, and worry in the aftermath. In that early book my heroine does bed someone she doesn't like, and they are sardonic with each other the entire time. Why does she do? Physical attraction but also the sense of companionship that bedding him brings.<BR/>So people who don't trust could actually go to bed quickly, to replace the emotional relationship they are too afraid to have. I think in erotic romance, the bedding comes quickly, but the trust, then love, is what builds slowly. <BR/>If each character needs intimacy but is afraid to love, this could be a compelling reason for them to have sex. I think its very powerful to have characters find pleasure together and then think--but I hate this person.<BR/><BR/>And this story sounds really interesting.Sharon Pagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15204125452024951988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post-61742023606894019922007-12-12T15:28:00.000-05:002007-12-12T15:28:00.000-05:00I've been acquiring intriguing sex books when they...I've been acquiring intriguing sex books when they go on sale--usually lots of remaindering after Valentine's day, and they are definitely packaged much sexier. I do wish I had the legs that are on the cover of my copy of "Great Sex for Moms." <BR/><BR/>And having just had my author photo done, I've seen the amazing things Photoshop can do. My photographer pointed out that everything in magazines is touched up.Sharon Pagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15204125452024951988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post-53718582493251119322007-12-10T16:46:00.000-05:002007-12-10T16:46:00.000-05:00very interesting post and I think you're right-som...very interesting post and I think you're right-some of us write to explore those deeply interesting contradictions between sex and love and lust etc etc, well I know I do-and having read some of your work, I know you do too!Kate Pearcehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04079485861541059016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post-1801842987317996212007-12-10T14:34:00.000-05:002007-12-10T14:34:00.000-05:00And don't forget "photoshopped", Jane, although I ...And don't forget "photoshopped", Jane, although I haven't really looked either.<BR/><BR/>Ok, Sharon, I do have a question for you -- I baulked at changing one of my non-erotic romances into an erotic one, because I couldn't figure out how to get them into bed together. They don't trust each other. I could make her more confident sexually, but the hero has had that blasted from him. Did I mention they don't trust each other?<BR/><BR/>So how do you get two characters into bed who don't like each other, without one of them paying for it?<BR/><BR/>I can do the "instant attraction", the "making a deal" getting togethers work, but I'm stuck on this dislike thing. (And yes, in the non-erotic version, they eventually end up in bed, because the issues are all cleared up between them).<BR/><BR/>*sigh*Celia May Harthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124733975264957145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post-37722159970551966092007-12-10T14:23:00.000-05:002007-12-10T14:23:00.000-05:00My friend bought an old copy of "Joy of Sex" at a ...My friend bought an old copy of "Joy of Sex" at a flea market. I remember being so disappointed that the people were not attractive and very hairy. I think the book came out in the '70's, I'm not sure exactly when. I wonder if the current sex books are more erotic. I see them for sale all the time in book clubs. The bodies on the cover are ripped and toned.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040629694490652973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7882241647734848746.post-81746009332780500202007-12-10T13:35:00.000-05:002007-12-10T13:35:00.000-05:00One of the classic and imo important backstories o...One of the classic and imo important backstories of hmmm, maybe the last 2-300 years (or maybe much longer) is the hidden bravery of girls, the curiosity about sex. I loved your early story snippet, Sharon. It's sort of one of my secret ambitions for girl babysitters to find my books.Pam Rosenthalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04357928783704661668noreply@blogger.com